By Chilimovie - 27 July 2021
An old couple who had passed their old age secretly drove out the old RV at home with their children on their back, ready to leave everything behind and set off on a road trip.
on the way. This means that the movie story is full of the characteristics of road movies, the uncertainty of the journey and the progressive life experience, casual and romantic.
Different from frustrated, rebellious or "broken" young people as the main character, "The Leisure Seeker " tells the "escape plan" of the old couple, which can be said to be a young attempt for the elderly-themed film.
In particular, the old people in the film use their slow forward speed and light and lively journey pictures to express their multi-directional interpretation of the meaning of time at the end of their marriage and even at the end of their lives, revealing the true meaning of love like a cocoon.
In the beginning, you think they just thought about the two-person world.
Then, you discover that the old man is a patient with Alzheimer's disease, and both amnesia and memory become inertia. It turned out that this was a trip to recall memories that the wife prepared for her husband.
Then, you start to worry that the wife who has been in pain several times in the film knows that she is seriously ill, maybe she will die soon. Then I realized that this was the last journey of the husband with his wife.
In the end, you see a familiar ending. The wife arranges for her husband to end her life with herself. This trip is the end of their lives.
Unlike "Love," which has a similar ending, the character in charge of arranging the death is the terminally ill wife, but the husband who died with him is healthy besides amnesia.
When it comes to the ethical issues of the elderly, "Love" is undoubtedly showing the truth and cruelty at the end of life, while "Love Before Memories Die" involves more "love" in the changing time. Among them, the most revealing, and the most interesting, is "selfish" love.
Love is tasteful, unique, and does not allow a third person to intervene. No matter how old you are, as long as there is love, you will be jealous. The old confused husband couldn’t remember the names of his sons and grandchildren clearly, but he didn’t forget the names of his rivals; after the wife heard about the derailment that was revealed by her husband, she was sent to the nursing home in anger... The jealousy is strong, the love is fierce.
However, no matter what, those are all things in the past. Now, for a clear-conscious wife, her "exclusive desire" for her husband is manifested in her constant care and distrust of others.
You only have me, and only I can take care of you. In other words, if you live in this world without my care, you might as well die with me in a decent way.
The wife's approach seems willful, but there is a kind of arrogance of not seeking life on the same day, but seeking death on the same day. The end here is not to escape the relief of illness, but more like a kind of unswerving staying together-the promise of marriage comes from this.
You know, no matter how many children and grandchildren have, when people are old or about to die, the meaning of family is simply two people.
Everyone is lonely, especially the elderly.
When you are old and you don't know what you say casually, you can make your children's eyes flushed.
Similarly, when your parents are old, you don't know what it means to them what you desperately prevented them from doing. Even if you know it, you might still oppose it desperately—just like a crying child at a funeral at the end of the movie. In a short period of time, the departure of their relatives caused them great pain, and they would not feel relieved.
So, what about when they get old?
Rare answer, but "time will eventually lead us to find an outlet for understanding."
