By Chilimovie - 27 July 2021
When watching this movie, I was constantly shocked by all kinds of shocks.
The first shock was the twisted translation of the Somali male nurse, or it made me angry. Shameless is not a girl who simply wants to alleviate pain, but shameless is a man who tramples on women's hypocritical manners, and even more to satisfy his savage self-esteem.
The second shock was in Hua Lisi's memory. The dirty old man said to her, Do you like my watch? You will be my fourth wife. Abnormal concept, so a man can conquer and gain self-confidence and strength through this kind of unnecessary intercourse, while a woman gains pain, shame and stigma, and shares the man’s conquest and sharing with several women who are equally ashamed. All the pain should be returned to her.
The third shock was when she was attempted rape in the car on the way to her grandmother's house. Under such a religious and cultural rule, women have become an instrument for venting sexual desire. Women’s organs are like cloth, constantly being torn and stitched, and like a container. Only when they use their pain to make a tight enough container can they be qualified not to be spurned, and then infinitely contain those that should be innocent. Lovely but the seed of evil now.
The fourth shock was when her grandmother told her that because of her departure, her father beat her mother. This is a small detail, but it makes me quite angry. What kind of power was it to make a woman cross the desert to marry an ordinary member of the nomads, to open her wounds for his desires, to be ravaged by sexual intercourse and fertility time and time again, and time and time again to see what she had suffered His painful daughter died. These pains that shouldn't be borne by a woman alone, are exchanged for the violence of shameless people.
The fifth shock was when Hua Lisi recalled the screams of the little girl when she was circumcised at the age of three, the pool of blood, and the calm she stated that she might have been eaten by a bird. The screams have been reverberating in my mind. This cruel ritual imposes great pain on the woman. This cruel ritual has been exchanged for formal holiness, and there are real insults and being trampled. This kind of ritual does not In exchange for any respect.
The sixth shock was Hua Lisi's final speech: because the things between our legs are impure.
But what is impure? What is impure where we were born? This is very puzzling, even if it is a vagina that has not been used before, and a vagina that is tight enough, when a man cuts it open brutally, facing the bloody organs, listening to screams in his ears, and at the same time a woman has nothing to do with it. Can he still feel pleasure during sexual intercourse when there is no sexual pleasure? Perhaps this kind of pleasure, only beasts are willing to enjoy. Or when she endures tremendous pain every month for purity, or when she dies because of their child's dystocia, how can this not make people tremble? This form of ethics is only to satisfy men's ugly conquest and possession, and to satisfy men's selfish and greedy sexual desires, and to materialize women, turning women into sexual slaves and fertility tools.
Opposing circumcision is actually a barbaric and deformed concept. In many countries and places, even if circumcision has been abolished in form, or even if women have never been circumcised, women’s sexual behavior has been or is still being cruelly oppressed. The church used to execute unmarried women who became pregnant, and in ancient times a so-called unclean woman was regarded as a prostitute. No one asked why she was like this, and no one cared about her body, her mind, or even the life in her womb. Stupid things happen around us every day, such as hymen repair, and even the most cruel and inhuman things happen around us every day, such as abortion. This is because a pure woman does not have the ability and self-confidence to face the public opinion and pressure of the society. For a simple woman, the wounds in her own heart cannot be healed for a long time, and she has to bear the pressure that should belong to two people at the same time. Is this humane? If our society is tolerant and human, can we still allow these boring things to happen? If our men are responsible, confident and kind enough, will they allow such pain to be endured by a woman? Do you still need to use some meaningless little things to prove your strength and self-confidence?
I always think that sex is sacred and beautiful. Its function is the foundation of our existence, and it can always create romance and pleasure. It should have happened naturally between two people who love each other, not just when it is about to happen. Due to social pressure, she began to worry about whether she would be despised by others, and she began to worry about whether she could live in the future. The house even began to doubt the man's sincerity. Because of these shameful reasons, the woman was "chaste", and this was actually a very unchaste and even cunning thought. The reason for this is not their utilitarianism, but the fault of men, and the fault of society. Just like after circumcision forced a woman to be chaste, she could marry a so-called good place and accept physical and mental ravages. She is unhappy, she has no human rights at all, and she herself materializes herself. Just as circumcised women have gradually accepted this kind of etiquette, they have also circumcised others, and they have been subtly thinking that they are objects. And now women, silently accept that they are a disadvantaged group, silently accept some absurd restraints, and tacitly agree that whether they love this man or not, they are not qualified to enjoy this joy with him, not because she has no feelings or desires, but because She was suppressed, suppressed by men's hypocritical and selfish desires, suppressed by social deformities and discriminatory notions.
Of course, if he and she both simply hope to do this beautiful thing as a ceremony when they get married in the future, regardless of the ugly things, then they are beautiful and their feelings are admirable. Moreover, the so-called equality, freedom, and release of women should also be applied to women who are principled and understand love. Like some bitches who trample on themselves, take pride in seducing other people's husbands, and use this as a means of usurping power to make money, they should not use sexual liberation as an excuse. If the solution is not liberated, you are all bad stuff.
There are still some beautiful shots in the movie:
I like Hua Lisi, kissing the hand of the inn’s owner and saying: Mom.
Like the male doctor's sigh and laugh.
Love the tears in her mother's eyes when she ran away.
I like my grandmother to say: Suffering must be for something worthwhile.
I like the happy and cute gestures that Marilyn taught Wallis to walk in high heels.
I like that sentence: Today is your lucky day.
I like the small relationship between Wallis and Jackson.
Like Marilyn pointing to the picture of Hua Lisi, and said happily: This is my sister.
I like something in Wallis's firm eyes at the last moment.
I like everyone who has helped Hua Lisi, whether stupid, strong, truly emotional, and so on.
